Regret

We must not weep for what might have been.  There is still time.

~ Edward Matchett

I wasn’t sure I’d participate is the Weekly Photo Challenge this week because the theme is regret.  I try not to spend too much time with regret because I feel it’s a lot like guilt in that it can hold you back if you wallow in it.  However, it can also be a catalyst for change if you learn from whatever it is that had you feeling guilty or regretful in the first place.

Putting regret into an image was challenging, too.  Of course that’s the whole point, isn’t it?  That’s why it’s called the Weekly Photo Challenge.  An epiphany came to visit this morning, one that made me realize I was experiencing regret.  The regret was about a loss of time, a waste of time.  A year (two years, three years) that could have been.

Sometimes when we’re trying to make changes of the self-improvement variety, time ticks by slowly as we wait to get to the day where the change becomes easy, the new normal.  We wish the days away, hoping to get to that day where the change is incorporated into our lives and it’s no longer a struggle to do whatever it is we’re trying to do (or eliminate whatever we’re trying to eliminate).  A day may come where there is a slip, a small cheat.  Then another.  It snowballs and it’s no longer a slip but a fall.  So you get up and start over.  Or you wait a bit, make new plans, get ready to try again.  And time passes.  A day, a week, a month, a year, several years.  You’re still trying rather than doing.

The beginning of this round of snow.

Then one day you get up, things fall into place, and it’s not all regrets after all because you realize you’ve been making progress all along.

One of the greatest spiritual acts of love is to walk away from recrimination and remorse and accept, in its place, love and your own self-worth.

~ Meredith Young-Sowers

Winter passing through.

We’re under a winter storm warning here in the Bogs today.  It’s a snowin’ and a blowin’.  The wind gusts are picking up big chunks of snow and ice, and carrying them as easily  as it carries the individual snowflakes.

The Mrs.

It’s not a good day to be out and about.  The snowplows can’t keep up with the squalls or the blowing of the snow across the roads.  M and I have decided to stay in.  He’s brewing beer, and I’m getting ready to curl up in the rocking chair by the fire and finish up the Harry Potter series of books.  I’m late to the party where Harry Potter is concerned.  I read the first book years ago, when it came out, with M the Younger.  By the time the second and third books were published, he decided he was too old for Harry Potter.  His wife recently talked him into reading the series and he in turn talked me into reading the books.  We’re going to have a marathon session of Harry Potter movies when we finish reading the books.  I’m on the last one and I think today would be a good day to make some serious progress towards the end.

I have to admit to being surprised.  The books are quite good.  Well written, and engaging.  I was not at all happy with Dolores Umbridge in Book 5 (so obnoxious!), and saddened by the death of a major character in Book 6.  I’ve been so immersed in Harry Potter’s world that I’m even dreaming about some of the characters (thankfully NOT Dolores Umbridge!).

The Mr. (Frost added in Picnik, painting effect added in Photoshop.)

I’d better wrap this up or I’ll be going on and on about Harry Potter which I’m sure will be boring to all of you who made their way through the series when it was all fresh and new.  (It’s still fresh and new to me… just not to most others.)  Thank you for visiting.  Feel free to bring whatever you’re reading and have a seat by the fire.  It’s warm and toasty and cozy, flames flickering and wood occasionally snapping and popping.  A good place to be today.

You should be able to see the pond in the background of this picture but the blizzard is concealing it.

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39 Comments on “Regret”

  1. Kel says:

    excellent take on the photo challenge
    the clock and images really drew me in

  2. I was just thinking this today…that I’ve been trying to decide if I should make some big changes in my life and I keep reminding myself to “live in the moment” and enjoy the now…even if it’s not quite what I envision…because I may regret it later! I love your photos…especially the last one! ~Sherry~

  3. dadirri7 says:

    brrr! good take on the challenge … time is an issue for all of us … yet as you say things are happening anyway 🙂

  4. And here I thought I was the last to join the Harry Potter party! But man, once I started into those books I just devoured them! To this day they are the only books that Alex has voluntarily read on his own (oh, how he hates reading otherwise!). Last winter, in anticipation of the last 2 movies coming out which covered the final book, I read it AGAIN all in one day. So so so well written and it just floors me to think that one woman had all of that running through her head! The details that you can trace from the first book to the last…just stunning. And I must say that the film do it justice. Sure, there is much they have to cut out and some versions are worse than others in that regard, but splitting the final book up into two movies was a great plan and they did such a remarkable job of casting the characters from start to finish that I must say, I MISS it all after awhile. I love ti drop in on the Harry Potter wiki page now and then and just browse through character pages and potions and such. I absolutely understand why you dream about them!
    One of my friends works for a particularly odius dean at her college. She refers to this person in writings as Dean Umbridge. We *all* completely understand!!

    • Robin says:

      LOL, Christina! Anyone working for a toad who deserves the title Dean Umbridge deserves a prize if they haven’t punched the dean in the face.

      I’m finding it difficult to put down the book I’m currently reading to take care of the usual daily chores. I may give in today and just read until I finish. I stumbled upon the Harry Potter wiki page a couple of days ago and immediately left, worried about spoilers.

  5. Regret was a difficult one for me to try this week – I have very few regrets at this point in my life other than my non-existent relationship with my brother, and that one is too painful to dwell on. So, I am leaving this challenge on the shelf….
    btw… I am a former bookseller and current librarian who has yet to get past book two of both the Harry Potter and Twilight sagas! I admire anyone who can slog through them though!

    • Robin says:

      Thanks, Cyndi. I’m enjoying the books. I don’t think I’ll bother with the Twilight sagas. I have a feeling that would involve more slogging than enjoying.

  6. Bo Mackison says:

    Regret. It is a tricky for a photograph. It is also tricky to live with. I agree that too much focus on regrets causes problems. Living in the present can be a real challenge.

  7. Deborah Lee says:

    I have no regrets… everything experienced (or not) in the past has made me who I am, and I’m thankful for that!

  8. I can assure you that there’s no chance of you being the last to read the Harry Potter books, Robin. I haven’t even started! But I’d love to take you up on the invitation to join you by the crackling fire, warm and cozy, reading “An Echo in the Bone”, book six in the series by Diana Gabaldon. That would be fantastic! Today, our weather has been hot and humid, my least favourite kind of summer’s day.

    Love your snow photos, but hope the blizzard doesn’t get out of hand.

    • Robin says:

      Thank you, Joanne. 🙂

      Shivering in the cold today, your heat sounds wonderful. But come August when we have our own heat, I probably won’t think it’s so great. lol!

  9. Sallyann says:

    You already know I’m not a book person but I soaked up the audio books of Harry Potter all in one go just after the last one was written. They were read by Stephen Fry – he was wonderful !
    Films are much more my thing, I didn’t go to the cinema to see the films, I borrowed the first couple as they came out but I had the whole set for christmas this year and spent a few wonderful days in a Harry Potter marathon. 🙂
    Enjoy 😀

  10. I don’t know how I would even begin to photograph “regret,” so I say kudos to you for your fine effort. Also, I had heard on the news a bit about the snow predicted for your neck of the woods and thought about you. Stay warm and enjoy Harry Potter.
    Hugs,
    Kathy

  11. Karma says:

    The Harry Potter stuff doesn’t bore me at all! My girls and I really loved the series. I remember when Book 5 came out, hubby was at the book store at midnight to get it. He came home and read half of it that night I think! My older daughter and I jostled for chances to grab the book and read it. That major character death in Book 6 was devastating! I kept waiting for it to turn out not to be true.

  12. Kathy says:

    Oh how interesting to read what you had to share about Regret. Fascinating, the way our minds work. Interesting that you noted that change had been happening all along, even though it wasn’t noticed. Lately I am not working as much to change and make things new–which I have been trying to do fiercely forever. Lately have been allowing Kathy to be more just who she is, in this (flawed) and (golden) place. Does this make sense? And from this allowing, a rising joy is coming. I can’t put it in words yet, but apparently just tried to here in your comments, dear golden friend.

  13. Dana says:

    Regret seems like it would be a very slippery subject to capture in photography, but you did a wonderful job, Robin. The clock photograph is so ethereal.

    I also haven’t started reading the Harry Potter books, but I’ll get around to it eventually. I kind of like to let things like that fade into pop culture obscurity, and then I pick them up for myself. 🙂 (I just saw the Terminator movies for the first time this past December. I was expecting Arnold to say “Hasta la vista” and “I’ll be back” about 80,000 times in the movie, based on how often those phrases have been used in pop culture. Imagine my surprise when he only said them ONCE!)

    • Robin says:

      Thank you, Dana. 🙂

      I generally like to let things fade too. Otherwise, I end up disappointed because the book, the movie, the whatever, usually doesn’t live up to the hype. Once the hype fades, it’s easier to enjoy something for what it is rather than what people say it is.

  14. Oh how I envy you your winter storm! We were supposed to have one Saturday finally but it fizzled out and disappeared without a trace… Strange winter. Your pictures are enchanting as always…

    Will have to see if I can get Harry Potter on my Kindle – I’m lagging behind as usual. 🙂 My husband and daughter loved the series and often weight the pros and cons of the movies compared to the books. Of course I have no idea…

    • Robin says:

      Thank you, Barbara. 🙂

      I think there are a few more chances at snow this week. I’ll talk to Old Man Winter and see if you can provide you with something more than fizzle.

  15. Carla says:

    Love your musings about how change happens slowly when we are beginning a new habit- and then suddenly we realize we have been making progress! Thanks for the beautiful cardinal in snow photos – all of the snow photos make me smile!

    • Robin says:

      Thank you, Carla. Glad you’re enjoying the cardinals and the snow. It seems a good exchange for my enjoyment of all the Mardi Gras decorations and preparations on your blog. 🙂

  16. jane tims says:

    Hi Robin. I realise a lot of my time is spent trying to make a change and then feeling guilty because I don’t succeed. I think the photo of the clock captures the culprit which is ‘time’. Jane

  17. I have to admit that the Harry Potter books were the only novels that I have read in probably over a decade!! My husband got me hooked on them years ago – we started with the first book probably when the 2nd or 3rd one was published. I LOVED them! They are wonderfully written, easy to follow, and I got VERY wrapped up in the world of HP!! In the 6th book, right after I read the death scene, I wanted to pick up the book and hurl it across the room, I was furious!! But…. that’s how good of an author JK Rowling is!! Now someday, I hope to get to the HP theme park in Orlando!!

    • Robin says:

      I never thought I’d ever say (or write) this, Holly, but…

      I’d like to visit the HP theme park too. 😀

      The reason I never thought I’d say or write that is because I’m not a theme park person and am often puzzled by those who spend every vacation at the same one when there are so many other things to see in the world. However, I have favorite places too, so I can sort of understand it. And it would be kind of cool to see what they did with all the Harry Potter magic.

  18. eof737 says:

    REGRET was a difficult one for many of us too… I like the way you chose to handle this one. Great photos as always… Finally catching up again. 5 down 500+ blog posts to go. Phew! 😉

    • Robin says:

      Thanks, Elizabeth. 🙂

      I don’t know how you do it. I usually end up deleting all those emails and starting over. I don’t like doing it that way, but can’t seem to find the time to do anything else when I get behind.


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